Allena Gabosch


Allena Gabosch, Executive Director of both the Center For Sex Positive Culture and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture from their creation until retiring January 1, 2015, has been active in the sex positive movement practically from its inception; producing educational and social events for the sex-positive community since 1990. She was the Development Director for the Center until January 2017 when she retired officially. She is currently living in Cyprus assisting close friends with a newly adopted daughter. She is a frequent speaker on many sexuality related subjects at colleges and conferences around the US and Canada and Europe, with an emphasis on Sexuality, Relationships, BDSM and Polyamory. She is a frequent guest on local and national radio and television as an expert on sexuality and has been in numerous documentaries. She has been quoted in many articles on-line and even once in People Magazine, thanks to the popularity of the 50 Shades of Grey.

She is a former Producer of the Seattle Erotic Art Festival, former board member of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and a former commissioner with the Seattle Commission for Sexual Minorities. She is currently working on several books, including one on Sex Positive Culture.

She is a kinky sapiosexual, solo polyamorous switch and considers herself extremely blessed as she has a rich and full poly life, with many amazing and loving people in her "polycule".

Her personal mission statement is to bring Joy to sexuality and to make a difference in the world.

Her Sex Positive Blog is
Her coaching website is:
Follow her on Twitter @Ladysun333

The Good The Bad and The Poly
Polyamory is a much misunderstood lifestyle. This will be an open and honest discussion about Polyamory in all its forms, from someone who has done it for 30+ years. Polyamory is an incredible lifestyle, but not always an easy one. It has a lot of rewards, but there are also a lot of pitfalls and potential disasters. Learn Allena’s 20 “Relationship Principles” (great for anyone, poly or mono). Find out tips on making it easier to live within your “polycule”. Come prepared to be part of this dialogue and share your poly experiences.

Basic Negotiations and Etiquette for the Sex Positive Community
Negotiation is an important part of BDSM interactions and really any intimate interactions (that’s a euphemism for sex). Basically it means finding out a potential partner’s limitations, interests and physical limits. This can be in the form of discussion or, like in the 50 Shades of Gray a written questionnaire, often called a contract. Allena will share negotiation types and techniques that will hopefully not only improve your play but also your other intimate interactions. She’ll also discuss basic scene and sex positive etiquette, to help you navigate parties and events at the Center and elsewhere.

Bottoms Rights and Responsibilities
Bottoms (slaves, submissives, property, etc) have a responsibility to keep themselves safe, healthy, emotionally balanced and physically fit. They also have a right to keep themselves safe, healthy, emotionally balanced and physically fit. How do you meet all your Tops (Master, Dom, Owner, etc) demands and still meet your own needs? This workshop will provide information about your rights and responsibilities, how to safeguard them and help you to recognize your own needs to be the best possible bottom you can be.

I want this to be a round-table type discussion with us talking about the rights and responsibilities we have to ourselves, to our partners, to our sisters and brothers and our community. I will give you my own opinions, but there is no “one true way” toward being a submissive/slave/bottom.


  • Navigating Polyamory and Monogamy
  • Get Your Flirt On
  • Aging and BDSM